The Heart of Insecurity

Who has confidence anyway? You do. You just don't know it yet. Every woman has the ability to look at herself (whether in the mirror or in heart) and say: "I really freaking like who I am".
Does it sound foreign? Absurd? It's really not, but lets get to the heart of the no confidence issue first.

Men. Need I say more? Daddies, boyfriends, ex-boyfriends and whoever the jerk was that coined what is beautiful in our century (Kate Moss-puke).
Yes, it's true; if daddy didn't find you valuable, and if daddy didn't tell you how enormously special you are, than it's probably likely that you don't know. It then seems inevitable-after this lack of fatherly attention, that when you, who doesn't know your worth begins to date-you will not know the difference between a guy who treats you well and one who doesn't. Your taste in men aside (we will most definitely discuss this later), you need to get to the place where you are happy with yourself despite what any "he" thinks of you. In fact the only "he" you need to be worried about is God-He is the only one you are ever going to answer to.
Okay, so we are disregarding all opinions. Mom, dad, sister, brother, friends, boyfriends. Why are we doing this again? Say it with me: because the only one that matters is God!
They are human, they are just as imperfect as you-get over it. Now, take the time to really let this next point saturate your mind: seeking human approval leads to lack of confidence.
Everyone has issues, everyone has faults, so why are you letting people decide what you are worth? It's absolute bullcrap-and be sure to remind yourself of that next time you do it. It's almost like letting a blind person tell you that you have no sense of style. How the crap would they know if you look good or not? Same, same girls. Don't let imperfection tell you what is good enough, what is pretty enough-who you are.

Psalm 119

Your hands made me and formed me;
give me understanding to learn your commands.

I have more insight than all my teachers,
for I meditate on your statutes.
I have more understanding than the elders,
for I obey your precepts.
I have kept my feet from every evil path
so that I might obey your word.
I have not departed from your laws,
for you yourself have taught me.

Homeboy above is confident-why? He is basing his confidence on God.

This is not the end of our confidence seminar. Next time, next step. Suck on this for a while.

I love you much,